8 Things to Never Apologize For

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Julie Lamb • July 31, 2020

Why do we say "I'm Sorry"?

How many of us say "I'm sorry" as a reflex, even if we aren't sorry?

Or maybe you don't say "I'm sorry" but instead you say or think:

I didn't mean it
How do I make this right
It's my fault

Often apologizing is a a form of people pleasing. It is easier to just take the blame and move on then to actually try and change something.

One of the biggest offenders comes from trying to please our family members. And when we don't we have a huge amount of guilt.

I am giving you permission to stop saying "I'm sorry".

Here are 8 things you need to stop apologizing for right now:

Setting Boundaries: A boundary is simply a way to protect yourself physically and emotionally. One of the hardest parts of setting boundaries is believing that it is okay to set that boundary. Think about what you need to feel okay and then set a boundary to respect that.
Choosing to Put Yourself First: It is okay to acknowledge when you need "me"time. We have all heard the analogy of putting our own mask on before helping someone put theirs on. When we are drained, we don't have anything else to give. So, maybe you need to set the boundary of protecting your "me" time so that you can give more of yourself later.
Believing in Yourself and Going After Your Dreams: What if you wanted to do something different that all those around you...can that be okay? You are so much more capable then you give yourself credit for. No one can take away your dreams unless you allow them to. So, dream big: what do you want from this life?
Having High Standards and Expectations: Never lower your beliefs just to fit in. If you don't want to do something, then don't. We tell our kids this all the time, so why do we try and become something we aren't?
Wanting More out of Life: Just because no one in your family does it, doesn't mean you cannot. How many times do we applaud those that are the first in their family to do something? Why not applaud yourself for taking a path that makes you happy.
Needing Some Alone Time: As an introvert, I totally relate. It also goes with needing to recharge yourself. Step away, take a break, and then good things will happen.
Outgrowing People that Had A Chance to Grow With You: It's okay to change friends. Many of us don't have the same friends from high school. And many of us make new friends that challenge us to grow and move forward. Be the one that challenges others to keep moving forward.
Saying No with No Explanation: No means no and that is okay. Often when someone wants an explanation it is because they don't respect boundaries. You can tell someone when something is not okay and also have the courage to walk away.

Take a look at the list of 8 things to NEVER apologize for. Which one do you want to make stronger?

If you are ready to stop apologizing and move forward in your life, set up an appointment with me today to help you be your best self.

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